My sister once asked me how I knew my husband was ‘the one’. We’d been married for probably five or six years at that time and things were good, but I still found myself answering her, “I didn’t. I still don’t know if I even believe in ‘the one’. I will tell you the moment I knew we were going to be okay, though.”
It was a moment that took place about a week before our wedding. I know, one would hope you know everything is going to be okay the moment you say yes, but it doesn’t always work out that way. Anyway, a week before our wedding, my soon-to-be husband was in the middle of an argument when I heard him say, “Do you want to know how much she means to me? She means everything. I’d walk away from everything else if that’s what it took to marry her.” Now that, my friends, is a leap of faith. He believed so strongly in our relationship that he’d walk away from everything, everyone, if that’s what it took. And so I knew.
To me, it’s those profound leaps of faith that really define a romance and make it memorable. Whether it’s real or fictional, I want the hero and heroine to be so in love they’re willing to sacrifice everything else just to be together. I want the relationship to be so strong that when the time comes, the couple has no doubts where they stand. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think you should turn you back on everything else just because you’re in a relationship. But when push comes to shove, I want my heroes to be a man and have their lady’s back. It’s something that’s so important to me, I found myself writing it into my newest release, Dragonborne. It’s even the focus of the tag line to the story.
Now, twelve and a half years into the marriage, I still smile when I think back to that day. And it wasn’t the last time my husband took my breath away with his faith in us. Do I believe he’s ‘the one’? I’m still not sold on the concept, but I can say—without any reservations—that he is the love of my life and I’d be lost without him.
In celebration of my recent release I’m giving away a pdf copy of Dragonborne. All you have to do to enter is tell me what makes a romance memorable to you. Is it the heroine, the hero, the back story and obstacles to overcome, maybe a test of love? Just leave your answer in the comments section.
If you’d like to read the blurb or an excerpt for Dragonborne, they can be found on my website: http://www.chandraryan.com/
Leah here: Chandra has asked me to draw the winner of her contest — to give everyone a chance to catch up on their blog reading, I’ll be closing comments on Monday at 12:01 a.m. and announcing the winner later that morning. Oh, and if you’re on Twitter, don’t forget to follow Chandra here.