Help a reader out! 10


I got a note from a friend saying she wants to have some fun, sexy pictures taken for her very special guy. (I don’t want to give too many details out in case he accidentally finds this on her browser.)  She’s looking for ideas of costumes she can wear — she needs five separate outfits.

Granted, it’s tough to tell without knowing the man involved–each man has different fantasies and ideas of what they find sexy, but my initial thought was that most guys find that costumes that let their imagination fill in a few details extremely sexy.

Then I realized, hey, this was a great idea for a blog post — maybe others would have some interesting ideas that I hadn’t thought about. So I asked for her permission to share her request on my blog.

What outfits do you think are sexy? Lots of skin, little skin? Lace vs leather? Color vs white or black?  Is there a specific prop or setting that you think is sexy?

Feel free to leave ideas in the comments, including links to pictures on Pinterest or elsewhere. (Note in the comment if the link is to a NSFW site, please.) And let’s be tasteful too, please. (Remember that if you’ve never left a comment here before, your comment will be placed in moderation so I can verify that you’re serious about your suggestion. In other words, no creepy guys leaving dirty suggestions, thanks.)

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10 thoughts on “Help a reader out!

  • Becky Burkheart

    * schoolgirl. pig-tails, freckle, button down shirt, short skirt and white cotton panties.
    * librarian. hair up in bun. glass, conservative business attire outer-wear, black lace bra w/ matching stockings and garter. (no panties!)
    * catwoman. black leather catsuit w/bull whip
    * Barbarian warrior princess. leather bustier w/short split skirt (gladiator type). (lots of bling and brass). a really big sword.
    * Slave girl: shredded leather bikini and chains

    – there’s five πŸ˜‰

    • Leah B

      LOL I KNEW I could count on you for ideas, Becky. I’d thought of a harem outfit — sort of an I Dream of Genie idea. I also think lighting and maybe not doing whole body shots (like the picture at the bottom of the post) can make a big deal of difference. I also need to remind her that she doesn’t have to spend a lot of money — a lot of the props might be found at a local Goodwill store, LOL. Though maybe not the leather bullwhip. Then again, you never know. πŸ˜‰

  • flchen1

    I think it’ll depend on what flips her husband’s switches, but I think many of the sexiest photos aren’t because of the outfits or the props–it’s the joyful smile, or the sexy “come hither” eyes that let us know that the subject is thinking loving, naughty thoughts; the peek of skin, maybe playing on her back as she glances over her shoulder; it’s using the play of light and shadow on her body and face… It might be as simple as a sheet, or shooting her through a draped sheet, a little backlit.

    • Leah B

      Yes! exactly. Most women (I’m not sure about this one) don’t have the cover girl figures that photographers tend to feature. It’s all about how the photoshoot is done–it’s about lighting and focus (or soft focus) on specific features. I love the idea of the line of a woman’s spine in soft shadows, with a satin sheet draped along the side. . Eyes (with good make up) peeking over a feather boa or feathered fan. A white business shirt (his preferably) being unbuttoned to allow a lacy bra to peek out from beneath. A tapering ankle into a high heeled shoe…or maybe a lacy stocking, with a matching lacy undergarment above, and that patch of skin in between…

      • Becky Burkheart

        she needs to spend a LOT of time researching her photographer, as much or more than she does the outfits. Look for someone who has lots of the kinds of shots she’s interested in doing. She needs to be able to see the kinds of shots she wants that they’ve done of *women of her body type*.

        most of us aren’t typical model material and as has been said, it’s more about the attitude and the atmosphere.

        also tell her don’t write off part time or semi-pro photographers. i think many times they will spend more time and creative energy to get what you want.

  • BW

    I personally think lace.. It’s a very romantic yet sexy look .. It’s also very innocent which a lot of men love .. Also like thigh high socks are always sexy too .. And with this look I believe that the hair should be curled and lips should be either red or pink depending on the outfit.. Good luck to her !

  • Catie W

    I think this is a really fun, sexy and creative idea to do for your man! Of course every woman is different when it comes to what they are comfortable trying, wearing, and revealing to others. I don’t know about your personal comfort level or your taste in lingerie but I think Lace and Silk are the best. You can use them to your advantage while showing as much as you like of as little as you’d like and can still look incredibly sexy.

    As for the outfits I think you need to just explore what you feel confident wearing. Whether that means snatching one of his thin white button up shirts and wearing black lingerie underneath the barely buttoned top then so be it. Or even wearing a sexy lace up bodice with garters and heels. You can dress yourself up or down and still be very sexy. Overall it is solely on if you are coming off truly comfortable, relaxed, having a good time, with love in your eyes… And maybe some lust πŸ˜‰

    Good luck to you! I hope the pictures turn out perfect for you and your man to enjoy! πŸ™‚

  • Rosalind A

    First of all I would say take your time and find a photographer with a very respectable studio. As far as what to wear…I would say it does depend on what your guy likes. If he has shared something that he would like to experience I would start with that. Then I think these sort of pictures are better if you can leave it up to the persons imagination. I like the sheet idea from above. A very sexy teddy…covering all the right parts so that he can’t stop thinking about what’s underneath. Some very sexy bra and panties. I think you should also take some in black and white…that will soften the photo. Good luck and I hope that I was helpful.

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