Doing What You Love

My daughter is not much of an athlete.  Most of that is because she doesn’t really care.  She has a very competitive nature when it comes to school, but not with athletics.  She’d much prefer to be curled up with a book, sunburns easily and doesn’t like to do anything she isn’t really, really good at.

Last week she finished her last volleyball game of the season (forever, according to her).  As we were talking and I was encouraging her to not close her mind completely to the idea just yet, she informed me, “Mom, I want to spend my time doing things I like that make me feel good.”

Wow.  Profound.  For a thirteen year old for sure, but for anyone really.

For her that means piano and violin, community theater and reading and writing.  She is an artist.  Growing up in a small Midwestern town where sports are everything.  Is she a little brave to dare to dislike the activities that ninety-percent of her peers love?  I think so. And to be open and vocal about it?  At her age?  For sure.  How many of us spend our time doing things we don’t like, not to mention love, because we’re “supposed” to or because we’re afraid of what others might think?  I’d be willing to bet that all of us have those moments.

In my new release Just Right, our hero Ben is going through something like this.  Ben’s an ER trauma surgeon.  The best around, in fact.  But—due to a series of unfortunate events, he’s decided that he’s spent enough time doing what’s right, being the good guy, the hero.  He just wants to have some fun for a change.  He’s never been a bad boy before, but he’s going to give it his all!  And he wants to corrupt a certain good girl he’s had his eye on for awhile—ER nurse Jessica Bradford.

Jessica could actually show him a thing or two about being bad, but she’s been doing her damnedest to be the woman her late father would have been proud of rather than the rebellious trouble-seeker she was growing up.  But Ben is awfully tempting. Then the Chief of emergency medicine offers her the promotion she wants if she can keep Ben out of trouble… well, now she’s intimately involved in helping Ben feel good!

So how about you?  Have you ever realized you’ve been wasting your time on something and just walked away?  Or is there something you want to walk away from (PTO meetings anyone?) but just can’t quite make yourself do it?    If you could do whatever you love and what makes you feel good, what would it be (hot sex with Gerard Butler is a fine answer… just leave out the details, okay?)

Comments will be rewarded! 🙂  Anyone who comments is entered to win a copy of Just Right!  Be sure to include your e-mail address!


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Erin Nicholas has been reading and writing romantic fiction since her mother gave her a romance novel in high school and she discovered happily-ever-after suddenly went a little beyond glass slippers and fairy godmothers!  She lives in the Midwest with her husband who only wants to read the sex scenes in her books, her kids who will never read the sex scenes in her books, and family and friends who say they’re shocked by the sex scenes in her books (yeah, right!).

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Leah here: Erin has provided an steamy excerpt but since some of you read this blog at work, and her excerpt is definitely NSFW, I’ve put it up over on my site. You can read the excerpt here.   Don’t forget to come back to leave your comment to be entered to win Erin’s contest.

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10 thoughts on “Erin Nicholas on Doing What You Love

  • April 7, 2010 at 6:00 am

    Your daughter is a very smart cookie Erin!! I already have Just Right, so please don't enter me, now I just need to find the time to read it!

  • April 7, 2010 at 6:33 am

    Yep, your daughter's pretty smart, Erin! I spent several years on a major in college that I was clearly ill-suited for before diverting to something slightly less horrible 😉 I got in to it thinking that it was a smart thing to study without really considering how little I enjoyed it and how badly I was doing! Duh!

    Congrats on Just Right–sounds like another winner!

  • April 7, 2010 at 7:39 am

    Sounds like your daughter's Gifted, Erin.

    No need to enter me, ladies. Of COURSE there's stuff I want to walk away from. Oy, is there. But we won't talk about that here.

    Anyway, thanks for the e-mail, Leah. I've got this up at Win a Book for you.

  • April 7, 2010 at 8:35 am

    I'm glad you have such a "profound" daughter; I too am truly blessed.
    Thanks for writing a blog that makes one think!
    Have I realized about wasting my time? Many many times. Unfortunately, most of my examples involve relationships. I have an older sister who cut off her siblings several years ago. No more cards. No phone calls. No visits. Nothing. It was always the rest of us who made 99% of the effort to visit HER, so all three of us have now effectively given up on her too. We'll be there for her if and when she wants us back in her life, but we won't initiate. We're tired of calling her and she doesn't answer or return our calls. She doesn't have an answering machine but she does have call display, so she knows that we've called. We see her picture on her son's Facebook occasionally, so at least we know she's alive.
    As for wanting to walk away, I have been wasting my time on an usher from our wedding party (of 29 years ago). He calls or drops in and complains about the same old things every single time. Even when we point this out, he just doesn't get it. We've told him we don't like negativity in our lives and he says he doesn't either. Yeah, but he perpetuates it! Sometimes he'll call (long distance) three times in a day just to talk about something on the news that bugs him. Now we take the first call and don't answer the subsequent ones, as his calls can last up to two hours at a time. I often let my husband take the calls, as he'll only talk with my husband for 5-10 minutes tops (because he doesn't cover as many topics), but he certainly is a pest. I feel it is up to my husband to say something about his friend of 45 years. Until then, they can have each other.
    As for doing something that makes me feel good, I enjoy water tube slides, but there aren't any close to our home. When we visit my sister 2000+ miles away, we drive 3 hours from her home to visit West Edmonton Mall in Alberta, Canada to enjoy their tube slides, regular water slides, and wave pool. So decadent….

  • April 7, 2010 at 9:24 am

    Thanks everyone (Natasha, thanks for buying Just Right!! 🙂 Hope you enjoy it!)

    We think she's pretty smart too… and I think she's braver than I was at that age. I cared a lot more about what other people thought than she does!

    I've walked away from some things too– jobs mostly (My husband wants to go three years consecutively with only one work tax form for me! G) But the relationships are much harder even when we know they're bad for us!

    As for doing what I love– I've been doing it for years but only sharing it publicly since last November when No Matter What was released by Samhain! 🙂

    Thanks for reading all!

  • April 7, 2010 at 11:46 am

    I walked away from an abusive thirteen year marriage and never looked back. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

  • April 7, 2010 at 11:47 am

    Forgot my email address.

    kissinoak at verizon dot net.

  • April 7, 2010 at 5:27 pm

    Good for you, Estella–that can be hard to do! I tend to stick to most things for far longer than I ought–it's a good thing to persevere, but not at the high cost sometimes…

  • April 7, 2010 at 11:04 pm

    Very smart little girl you have there. Wish my oldest was that smart. Now my younger one knows what she wants, has just had to put it on hold for a year or so, til after the baby is born this summer.
    "If you could do whatever you love and what makes you feel good, what would it be?"–My dream is to one day be able to afford to open a store that is crafts on one side, books on the other, with a small cafe area in the middle. Or at least the book store part of it. We don't have a decent book store closer that 90 min away.

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