Blog swap day! Erotic romance author Cari Quinn has taken over my blog, but that’s all right, I’ve taken over hers. Thankfully Cari sent me some questions because I really haven’t a clue what you want to know about anymore — whether me or Texas Tangle. So once you’re done reading Cari’s post here, pop on over to her blog…Okay, Cari, the stage is all yours:

Cari Quinn, Girl Writer

First off, big thanks to Leah for having me here once again. She’s the best!

My topic today probably is pretty self-explanatory from the title of the post. I know, I know, what right does a thirty-something single gal have to inquire about the secret world of committed relationships? I mean, each one’s like a diamond. Some hard edges, some scratches, lots of shine in the right shaft of sunlight. But even the most loving couples struggle to keep the passion alive. I remember this myself from my days of coupledom. With work and families and kids and housework, who has time for romance? We’re so busy nowadays that sometimes it’s easier to get a hold of our significant other via text message or Twitter rather than actually having a face-to-face conversation. So how do you make time for romance? Sure, you can spice things up via sexy voicemails, but eventually you’re going to be in the same room and there has to be some way to shed the shackles of daily life that keep your libido on ice.

For Ty and Jenny, the couple in my recently released novella, Ex Appeal, their relationship has become stale. So stale that Jenny thinks Ty’s more attached to the TV during football season than he is to her. What woman can’t relate to that? She tries everything she can think of to add back some zing, but Ty seems suspicious of the changes she tries to make. Breaking up seems like the only thing to do – except both are miserable. Neither make a move to rectify that fact until Jenny discovers Ty’s decided to seek a new relationship online via the dating website he never knew she worked for. That’s when the fireworks really start. 😉

Since Ex Appeal’s an erotic story, you can probably guess how Jenny and Ty endeavor to work through their issues. But what about real life? Romance is more than hitting the sheets, though that’s certainly nice too. But the little flutter in your chest when you see you guy or girl…well, that’s the really good stuff. So how do you keep your heart fluttering? Do you and your mate have special routines or rituals? Do you go away on vacation, just the two of you? Maybe share a glass of wine after the kids are in bed? I’d love to hear what works for you. I can always use the tips for if and when!

As the webmistress for one of the Northeast’s hottest dating sites, Hunk Du Jour, Jenny Talbot is no stranger to reading the applications of potential clients. But when the latest application that crosses her inbox belongs to Ty Randall, the guy she broke up with a mere twenty-seven days ago, she does a double take. Reading what Ty wants in bed not only gets Jenny hot, it also makes her rethink ending their relationship. All she longed for was a little more spice in the bedroom—okay, a lot more—but he let her go without an argument. Faced with the possibility that Ty may really be moving on, getting her ex back becomes more appealing than ever. But will revealing exactly what she needs allow Jenny to finally experience ultimate pleasure or will she drive away the man she loves for good?

Ty inhaled deeply. His head swam at the scent that filled his nostrils, an aroma that was all Jenny. His fingers clenched on the doorframe above his head as he took in the sight of her lying nude on the bed. God, she was beautiful. Her golden skin glowed under the track lighting, and her wet pink lips pursed as she concentrated on what she was doing. The pain that had seized him moments ago when he’d walked in the unlocked door and heard her moans coming from the bedroom faded away in a flood of lust.

He couldn’t stop the sound that escaped him. Part groan, part growl, all need. Her gaze swung toward the door, her pupils widening until her hazel irises all but disappeared. He met her eyes briefly, electrically, before he deliberately shifted his attention back between her thighs.

Abruptly, her movements stilled.

They stared at each other in silent challenge. Her flushed face reddened even more, the color inching all the way up to her hairline. She’d always been a blusher, but he hadn’t seen that reaction from her in too many years to count. It had been a long time since he’d flustered her, and he liked it.

For a moment, neither of them moved. Hello, awkward. But in spite of the strained circumstance of their reunion, he only wanted one thing.

For her to finish.

“Don’t stop,” he murmured.

Buy Ex Appeal here

Want to know more about Cari or her others books? You can find Cari on Twitter or Facebook under (shocking, I know) Cari Quinn or you can visit her blog at which should be your next destination since you-know-who is over there. *cough*ME*cough*  But don’t forget to give Cari some romantic advice — I’m going to be giving away the winner’s book of choice from Cari’s backlist…Contest closes at July 1st at 10 EST.

Cari Quinn wrote her first story – a bible parable – in 2nd grade, much to the delight of the nuns at her Catholic school. Once she saw the warm reception that first tale garnered, she was hooked. She attempted her first romance in junior high, long before she’d ever read one. Writing what she knew always took a backseat to what she wanted to know, and that still holds true today. Cari’s genres of choice include contemporary, romantic comedy, romantic suspense, urban fantasy and paranormal. Recently she discovered erotic romance. Oh, how far she’s come.

Cari Quinn’s Keeping the Flame Lit
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15 thoughts on “Cari Quinn’s Keeping the Flame Lit

  • June 29, 2010 at 11:47 pm

    Hi, Cari! Ex Appeal sounds like a very fun story! I think that reunion stories are definitely a fun theme–I love the idea of all that history working together for the couple 🙂 But you're right, in real life, keeping the romance alive is work! I know that when I work out, I feel better about myself, and that's a good thing for both of us. And I think that really seeing and recognizing the things my husband does well and how considerate he is of me helps put my mind in a receptive mood. Vacations are a huge plus (without the kids, at least occasionally!) and making time for just the two of you is really key, too!

    Best wishes!

  • June 30, 2010 at 1:00 am


    this looks like a really fun read.

    Romance is work for sure. Three little words are very important…nope, not I love you, though they are important too, but I am sorry, and to really mean it.

    We've been married 32 years and have eleven children and our romance is still going very strong and we still have lots of fun time when we are alone…hehe!!!

    So, off to Cari's blog now to visit you know who…lol!!!

    in Germany

  • June 30, 2010 at 9:57 am

    I still have my post EX APPEAL swoon going on. Cari you seriously know how to write the heat! Loved that book. You even had me Googling flavoured body crayons lol!

    I kind of agree with anonymous up there about the 3 little words in a relationship that all men should know to say to his woman:

    "you are right"


    "I was wrong"


  • June 30, 2010 at 10:05 am

    Like Valerie, I've been married 32 years (though I don't have 11 kids–I bow down to Val's awesomeness–and exhaustion) and she's right. He really needs to know how to say he's sorry. 😉

    And I'm with Fedora too–you need to get away from the kids and just remember who you are as a couple instead of mom and dad all the time.

    Flavored body crayons help too 😉

  • June 30, 2010 at 10:37 am

    Hi Cari,

    I always enjoy getting to know a new author, and you've given us a fabulous excerpt, and a new story to add to my wish list.

    I just celebrated 35 years of matrimonial bliss, lol. We still have date night, usually twice a month, where we dress up a bit and go out to dinner. Also always have a movie night on Saturday's. Sometimes it curled up in front of the tv, sometimes we will splurge at the movie theater.

    caity_mack at yahoo dot com

  • June 30, 2010 at 12:38 pm

    Hi Cari and Leah! I'm coming up on 21 years of marriage in November, and my husband and I are lucky that we're still very happy and still very attracted to each other. So here's my advice (from one erotic romance writer to another, lol) — don't let the sexual flame die. Intimacy is so important in maintaining a healthy relationship. It's not all about hitting the sheets, but never underestimate the importance of that particular aspect :).

  • June 30, 2010 at 1:14 pm

    Hi Cari,

    Keeping the romance alive is a challenge, but hubby and I go for a walk after dinner most nights. We chat about our day and it's really nice. Of course, the lack of children helps. Your book sounds great and it's on my to-buy list. I look forward to reading it.

  • June 30, 2010 at 1:56 pm

    Love the premise of this book, and the title grabs your attention too. I love steamy reads so I'll definitely add this to my wishlist.

    Couples have to set aside time just for themselves, where they can remind themselves why they wanted to marry in this first place. And in a relationship, it's the little things that show you care….taking out the trash, making a favorite meal. Take time for the little things to keep a marriage strong.

  • June 30, 2010 at 5:21 pm

    Ex Appeal sounds great!

  • June 30, 2010 at 5:59 pm

    Thanks so much for having me here today, Leah, and thanks to everyone for the replies to my question. Lots of great ideas here…and really, it seems like the "small" moments are the ones that keep a relationship strong. Along with the occasional explosion or two, as well. ;D

  • June 30, 2010 at 6:50 pm

    Hi Cari,

    You nailed the interpersonal push and pull of a long term relationship in Ex Appeal perfectly. I LOVE, LOVE that story.

    About how to keep the flame lit… I'm a single gal too, so I'll leave it to others.

  • June 30, 2010 at 10:25 pm

    Hi Cari,

    I liked that snippet. Ex Appeal sounds like a naugty and nice story, very appealing.

    As far as keeping the relationship alive, DH and I take time for ourselves away from the kids. Sometimes on Fridays, we have an appetizer dinner with wine in our bedroom. We have a nice round table on the side of the room and its like a date. LOL, sometimes it works for half an hour before the constant knocking on the door begins by our waiters (kids). *sigh*

  • July 1, 2010 at 12:19 pm

    I love that excerpt from Ex-Appeal! I think this might be another one to get me through my time on the elliptical – Full Disclosure was the *best* thing to distract me from the whole "Oh God, I think my heart is going to explode and my legs going to fall off my body!" lol. Sorry, I'm going on…

    It's hard to keep the spice in a relationship with both partners working & going to school fulltime and a kid who's very active & curious… Sending sexy text messages works to build anticipation. Having a "date night" once a month (at least) is good too. We get dolled up, take the Monkey to my mom's, and head out for the evening. I like going dancing, but FH isn't a fan, so we compromise by going to a bar where they play kickass music. Sometimes we go to the movies, sometimes we go to dinner, and sometimes we just stay in and talk all night.

    We've only been together 2 years, but ice learned that communication is key – without it, things get boring and stale and sucky. Also, it helps save us from fights or arguments. 🙂

    Some of our spicier ideas… Edible body paint, flavored lube, sexy dice game, role play, and toys. Like I wouldn't have all this stuff? Come on now, I'm a member of the #SmutClub! 😉

  • July 2, 2010 at 3:00 am

    And the winner is….Joder!

    Joder, please send an email to contest @ (without the spaces) with your choice of Cari's backlist (including her Ex Appeal). Congratulations Joder, and thanks everyone for taking the time to comment.

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