While RAGT is a chance for me to get to meet my readers, and meet new ones, and for me to play fangirl and get to meet my favorite authors (because, hey, I’m a reader too), it is also a chance for me to talk with other authors and catch up on what’s going on in the industry. It gives me a chance to compare our writing processes which makes me feel better knowing I’m not the only one who sometimes feels like “all I write is crap” and needs that little push in the right direction.

The authors I’ve met at RAGT are all super. They’re upbeat, they’re helpful, they’re supportive of everyone else, no matter whether they’re a big name author like previous attendees Jade Lee or Beth Kery or a newly published author with a smaller press…and they’re that way not only to readers but to other authors no matter where we are in our careers. (It’s one reason why I love the romance industry—I’ve been a member of a literary group and OMG such a different attitude.)

Lori WildeThis year I had the good fortune to meet author Lori Wilde. I’d seen her around at last year’s RAGT – she’d sat at our breakfast table but she was at the far end away from me and I never got to actually talk to her. This year she sat right across from me and amongst other topics, naturally we talked about the writing process. I mentioned I had been struggling for a while with my writing. That I felt like I knew the basics enough to get published but there was something I was missing to take my writing to the next level. Lori said it’s normal to reach that point about every ten books. Which means I’m right on schedule.

During the book signing, she popped over to say she’d bought one of my books and had some suggestions of how to take that leap—could we get together later in the evening? Talk about jaw-dropping. Lori Wilde had bought one of my books? And read some of it? Cue fear mixed with excitement.

So after the Carina Press Pictionary game that night, I met with her once again in a quiet corner of the restaurant. We talked deep POV and themes and motifs for over an hour, maybe longer. Some of the things I’ve already been doing innately, but she’s shown me how to take those themes and points of view to the next level. She even gave me four pages of notes she’d written out so I could take them home and study them. She gave me that push I needed.

She was all that is gracious and I wanted to do one of those Wayne’s World “We’re not worthy” bows to her at the end. We're Not Worthy Smiley

Now it’s up to me to put her advice into action and whip my manuscripts into shape.


So to thank her for taking the time out of her busy schedule to help a struggling and fledgling author, I’m going to give away a paperback copy of Love at First Sight, the first in Lori’s new contemporary western series with Avon.

In the first in a dazzling new series, Lori Wilde welcomes us to Cupid, Texas, where every wish for love comes true . . .

“When it hits, you just know . . .”

Natalie McCleary couldn’t believe her eyes—a lean-muscled, darkly tanned, nearly naked man stood in her path . . . and then it hit her: love. Everyone always told her it would hit like a thunderbolt, and she never believed them. But now she knew: practical, sensible Natalie was head over heels in love—with a stranger.

But ex-Navy SEAL Dade Vega wasn’t about to be a stranger for long. He’d ridden into Cupid on his motorcycle, vowing to keep a promise he’d made to a military buddy. But a single glimpse of Natalie—soaking wet and unexpectedly tempting—changed his life forever.

But how can he offer her his love, when he can’t even promise to stay in one place for longer than a week?

Leave a comment telling me if you’ve ever met someone who has taken the time out of their busy life to give you advice that’s helped you. Or some other way someone has paid it forward.

(You must leave a comment to be eligible, but you can also like Lori’s FB page, or mine, to earn extra entries. Contest closes Tuesday, June 18th at 12 AM — for those of you like me who have trouble figuring out when that is, in other words between Monday and Tuesday morning. I’ll announce the winner Tuesday morning.)

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19 thoughts on “Paying it Forward (a special RAGT memory)

  • June 14, 2013 at 11:19 am

    I have a good friend who talked me through a tough time with my son. I hope I have payed that help forward a few times myself.

    • June 15, 2013 at 11:46 am

      yes, that’s important too, Margie. to take the time out of our busy schedules and help out others the way people have helped us out. I’m so glad you had a friend to step up when you needed one.

  • June 14, 2013 at 11:21 am

    I’ve taken online writing workshops from Lori Wilde. She is amazing! That was so nice of her. I think we all pay it forward in little ways each day and in big ways at times.

    • June 15, 2013 at 11:46 am

      I hope we all pay it forward, Stephanie. This is my small effort…

  • June 14, 2013 at 3:53 pm

    i can answer this question easy. At RAGT my friend Sarah who i was in the Army with 21 years ago and now meet every year at RAGT to have some girl time and fun sat with me for lunch Friday afternoon and talked to me about some of the things going on in my life. She sat at listened and offered ideas but never judged. A Rare thing. Most people want to tell you what you ‘re doing wrong or flat out tell you what to do instead of trying to understand your point of view. Sometimes long distance friendships are worth their weight in gold.

    Lisa B

    • June 15, 2013 at 11:45 am

      Aw, yay for Sarah! And yes, I have a few friends like that too. They’re worth their weight in gold.

  • June 14, 2013 at 6:31 pm

    I have already read Lori’s book and she is a must read for me so please don’t enter me in the contest.

    I just want to acknowledge our story. That is wonderful that she took that time for you. How awesome for both of you! Best wishes!

    • June 15, 2013 at 11:44 am

      Thanks, Lynne. It was especially awesome for me. Lori was fantastic for making such an effort.

      • June 15, 2013 at 12:10 pm

        Wish she lived closer. TN is to far away lol

  • June 15, 2013 at 11:42 am

    I had 4 young children at home, one of whom had been in the hospital, when our house was robbed and my wallet stolen. Two seperate incidents in one weekend. We were broke and devastated. A wonderful lady arrived with a hug and an envelope with enough cash to pay the electric bill and buy groceries. She would never allow US to repay her.

    • June 15, 2013 at 11:43 am

      Oh wow! I’m glad someone stepped in to help you out.

  • June 15, 2013 at 12:12 pm

    DAmn! Next year introduce me so *I* can get that kind of advice!! It was good seeing you and fun sitting next to you!

    • June 15, 2013 at 12:14 pm

      you’re welcome to sit with us at breakfast any time at RAGT, Monica. You never know who you’ll end up talking with. (Jill Shalvis also sat at our table last year…)

  • June 15, 2013 at 12:26 pm

    I’ve had instances where people have gone out of their way to help me finish projects without any request for help. I try to do the same thing both from a personal perspective and professional one.

  • June 15, 2013 at 4:06 pm

    Many many years ago a good friend of mines father paid me a compliment and I didn’t know how to take compliments so I played it off. He told me I needed to learn to take a compliment gracefully and he was going to make sure I learned. Because people don’t give them if they don’t mean them. So every time I saw him he made sure to pay me a compliment and show me how to responded. He did this until he was sure I’d learned my lesson. Lol. He was a wonderful person. I miss him to this day.

  • June 17, 2013 at 3:36 pm

    A close friend gave me good advice when I was dealing with a difficult time in my life.

  • June 17, 2013 at 7:52 pm

    I have older sisters who are also my best friends. They have paved the way, as it were. Their advice is always welcome and certainly useful.

  • June 17, 2013 at 9:16 pm

    Our group of friends exchange help with each other.
    Ex. My hubs and I (mostly hubs) fix comps and set up networks, and electronics,surround sound, tv etc. When we need some work done on the Harley or house one of our friends can do it. It’s mostly just friends helping friends.

  • June 17, 2013 at 9:17 pm

    Our group of friends exchange help with each other.
    Ex. My hubs and I (mostly hubs) fix comps and set up networks, and electronics,surround sound, tv etc. When we need some work done on the Harley or house one of our friends can do it. It’s mostly just friends helping friends

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